The holidays are fast approaching and many of us will face them without the ones we love, be it spouses, parents, siblings, our children, our grandchildren, or our best friends. I remember the first time I lost someone very close to me, and the very difficult challenge of living daily without them. I felt and still feel with some of the losses, that I relive the pain of their leaving everyday.
There are so many who have faced greater loss than I have, and it almost makes me feel guilty to share mine, but to not share is to turn away from my heart, and I have never been one to be able to do that. I am a believer of a heart directed life, knowing that it is truly the center of all things.
Love is the most powerful force on earth and is a living thing born of our hearts and has no end. Love is a continuum and never ever dies, not real love, not true love, it just keeps going and going and going. Anything less would not be authentic. How we meet it, how we care for it, matters greatly.
I have loved big and much in my life, and I have lived through losing the object of my love many times, and not once has the love ceased to continue, and I think therein lies the struggle. Where do we put all the love we have when what we love is gone from our lives?
I know for me shutting it down does not work, as I would have to close off pieces of my heart for that to happen, and my current stance on life and our ability to not just survive it, but to thrive in it, is to live with our hearts wide open.
Love is associated with the element air, and when we love, and when we are in love, we feel like we are walking on air, it is a state of nirvana, pure bliss. Nothing on earth feels as good as love does. When we lose the object of our love, we struggle with where to put all the love. Sometimes we try to drink it away, eat it away, smoke it away, run it away, work it away, but the results are poor.
For those who have lost their loved ones to death, it feels so final, so helpless. Those who lose their loved ones to another or to other circumstances have a different battle. They live with the inability to share their love with that person knowing that that person is still here, and they are held in a different kind of struggle.
I have watched people and myself try to place that love into projects, to keep that love alive in some way. And I think it helps place our energy in a better place, but the void remains, a big gaping hole in our heart where they use to exist.
I understand that love never dies, and I don’t have an answer to my question, but I do have a strong belief in the existence of a higher power who is the great and grand orchestrator of life. I also know that my acceptance of what is, is crucial to living more fully and peacefully, regardless of my sometimes failing attempts.
I send prayers of light and love to all who are facing life without their loved ones. May we reach out to one another with all the accumulated love that we have been holding onto and try to heal the wounds that be.
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