Align with the Divine and Lay Down Your Piece of the Puzzle

After more than a half century of living, I have come to understand more the purpose of things, including my own.  I know that I contain, like everyone else, a piece of the great puzzle that makes up this world.  My piece is of great worth, just like everyone else’s and no two pieces are alike.  Your piece to lay down is unique to you and your gifts.  Your surroundings, your circumstances, are all leading you to your divine path, to laying your piece of the puzzle down.

The Gift of Adversity

I have recognized a common denominator for laying great works down, bringing forward your specific piece, and that is adversity.  I have said it many times, and I will say it again here, struggles are the stone upon which you sharpen your soul, so give thanks to them and seek to understand what they are telling you.  There are signs everywhere for those who are ready to receive.

And there are powers that be that uphold the good and help to move life forward as it was meant to happen.  Some forces are held in the energetic fabric that makes up this beautiful universe and are unseen in terms of what we know as natural sight.  And then there are the physical beings who walk right into your life to lift and support you as you strive greatly to give birth to that which you hold within; some will only be with you for a short while and others will be your constant companions, championing you on to deliver and lay down your piece.

I have known for most of my life that I feel things deeply, so much so that I often wished this was not the case.  I wanted on so many occasions to be normal, to not be so sensitive, to not feel so deeply, but I was cursing and trying to rid myself of the very thing that is my gift –  to feel, and to feel deeply.

Plagued with delicate health, I have always had to work hard to feel good.  Doing yoga was one way I found to feel physically good all the time.  No one told me that what I was doing in practicing yoga was balancing my doshas and thereby keeping the physical constitutional make-up of my body strong and in balance.  I just knew that every time I stepped off my mat from practicing, I felt better and stronger and able to better live this life.

I didn’t know or see in the beginning that my struggle with my health was leading to my divine purpose.  My health was a catalyst for finding yoga and then finding there on my mat healing patterns of movement that both soothe and strengthen the subtle body.  My ability to feel so deeply gave me the ability to know and understand and feel pain, and with it I gained, or more appropriately stated, I received from the great council of spirit, how to move and how to be still to rid my physical body of discomfort and how to sit with the feelings that stirred through my heart and the experiences that made up my life and make sense of them.

My great sense of feeling, the one thing I wanted not to have, was the very thing that was at the base of my understanding to create Samdhaana Yoga and the principles it contains for directed movement on the mat.  I began to share these understandings with the world in the small groups of people who came to my classes and the souls who allowed me the great opportunity to share in their journey of yoga and become guides of this wonderful practice themselves.

Gratitude

I began to be more thankful for the sensitivities I had been given and gave gratitude for them and the ability they gave me to feel my own energy and heal it through this work; and then came the next step, which was the ability to gather the energy of others while in class and provide patterns of movements that would help and support and strengthen their bodies both physically and energetically.

All of this great sense of feeling deeply and the human experiences that I was having in my life were leading me to laying my piece of the puzzle down and that piece is Samdhaana Yoga.  It will not be the right thing for everyone or resonate with everyone, but it will support and help many, and the beautiful powers that be knew this all along and were just waiting for me to wake up and recognize it myself.

Like every single being on this earth, I am here to experience life and learn and grow from these experiences.  When I look at my life and what has happened, I can see that all of it was in preparation for what is to come next.  All of it was preparing me for reaching within and discovering my gift so that I might share it with the world.

I can’t say it has been easy or that I have bowed with gratitude for the hardships that I have had, but I know they were all things that occurred for my growth and the rising up of knowing and understanding my divine purpose and doing the work to bring it forward.

A Game Changer

So many many times I have wanted to quit, so many times I have cursed my circumstances and wanted a softer way forward.  When I would falter in this way, my life would immediately get even harder and new situations of difficulty would arise and make me want to quit even more.

When I began to recognize this pattern in my life and became conscious of it, I began to change how I met the struggles or times of adversity in my life.  I began to meet them with a more open heart, and a knowing that whatever it was, was just trying to push me forward.  I became more accepting of circumstance and began looking at it with more awareness of what was trying to poke through the hard ground and be born and have light shed upon it.

I started looking at my life experiences as my teacher and looking for the golden nuggets of truth that they were trying to reveal.  This was a game changer for me.  I woke with gratitude each morning instead of dread, I awoke saying out loud all the things I had to be grateful for and really seeing what was in front of me and all the help and support I actually had around me to deal with whatever lay at hand. It still didn’t make the experiences less to handle, but I began to handle the experiences better, with more awareness and joy of learning to move forward and the power to grow me as I was meant to grow and learn and ultimately understand.

Support, Both Earthly and Divine

With this new awareness, I recognized the ones around me who were placed through circumstance to stand with me.  That is when I recognized, I had been given a Lisa! Lisa is my best friend, my business partner, and my earthly guide in this lifetime.  She came to one of my first classes for beginners at my yoga studio.  She stepped into my life during one of the most trying and most difficult times I have ever experienced.  She saw the gift that I possessed and offered to help in any way to bring it forward.

It started with helping with handling our social media. Doing our newsletters, getting us twitter and instagram accounts, creating our monthly calendars, overseeing my schedule, and building our new website.

With her very strong resolve she began to lift me up from the rubble of what was my life and help me stand strong on my own two feet.  She believed in me, in my gift and in the work I was doing.  She selflessly gave of her time and energy to move me forward and help me lay down my piece of the puzzle.

I often tell her she should run, run as fast as you can away from me, not understanding at times how she can give so much for what seemed to me for nothing in return.  These are the times when she shares with me that helping me is part of her divine path and that what we are doing together lifts and supports and strengthens her as well.

I still feel she got the short end of the stick on this, but she assures me daily that this is not true and then she shows me, by standing valiantly beside me as I weather life’s storms while we work together toward what we both believe in.

Lisa’s energy can be likened to that of the earth, she is strong, steady and still in life.  My energy can be likened to that of the heavens and is uplifting and moving like the clouds in the sky.  Together we complement each other well.

I believe without a doubt that her walking into class was fate and part of the great and grand plan orchestrated by the master of the energetic template of life.  We hold the energy we hold and as such we attract that which we need to move forward and grow.

As you move forward in life look for and pray gratitude for the “Lisas” in your life.  They are there to help you lay your piece of the puzzle down.  Wake each day with great commitment to live your life well and align it with the divine and watch the powers that be support you, for they know and understand your worth and your purpose.  Take time to sit with self and recognize the greatness you hold and the divine plan of your birth.

Follow Your Heart

Your heart contains all the information you need for this life, so follow it and see the universe support your efforts.  I can promise you it will not be easy, but you will have a great sense of contentment from doing so.  I strongly believe that all actions taken in accordance with the heart will breed great things; as all actions taken against the heart will only lead to frustration and discord.

You were born with tremendous gifts, pay tribute and give gratitude to the great creator for them.  You were born to be a game changer and many will follow you once you step onto the platform you were meant to stand on.

And finally know this, standing in your power and aligning with the divine will always be met with equal resistance of the very strength that you hold.  You, my dear one, hold much, your struggles will be great because of that.  Understand when you meet each one, it is to build you and strengthen you for what is to come, and the effort it takes to stand and reveal what it is you were born to do.

Copyright 2017 Melody White. All rights reserved.

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Surrendering to a Higher Power

One of the greatest things I have had to learn to not only survive the difficult parts of life, but to thrive in life and move through and forward, is to surrender the things beyond my control to a Higher Power. Not only is it so freeing, but it has become essential for me to really live with my heart wide open.

We only have control of two things in life, and that is our own actions and thoughts and how we respond to someone else’s actions and thoughts.  Once we have done everything in our power to do and be, we must relinquish control, and believe that the universe and the powers that be will handle it from here.  This is a very simple concept, but it is not an easy one as long as we are ruled by the nature of our ego and not the love in our hearts.

We have a perception of how we want life to go, and it is sometimes difficult to let go of the reins and believe that what is meant to happen and meant to be, will happen and will be. And because of this, we try very hard to control the things around us in order to have the outcome we want.  The problem here is that our view of things is limited to what we know, what we understand, and is often very clouded by what we want and desire.

I have personally experienced not letting go of the reins and watched life hand me what it could, based upon my continual input and struggle with what I saw as the right thing. I limited myself in many ways from allowing God, or the powers that be, to give me what would really be best for me.

When we try to control everything, we negate the many great and wonderful options that could be. Limited by our mind, our beliefs, and what we as humans can see and understand, our options are made narrow, and we circumvent the many options that could be.

We know what we know.  Whereas God, the universe and all the powers that be, know all truths, have all understandings, and given the chance they will pour upon us all things best for us if we can step out of the way.

I watched an old HGTV show one time, where a woman had a very large basement and she was given the opportunity to have someone come and create a space in her basement for the things she said she wanted, a great living space for family and friends, a nice workout area, and a nice extra bedroom for guests.  Her basement was full of all kind of things she had not been able to part with but hadn’t used in a long time.  As the design and construction team came to give her what she wanted, she was unable to part with what she had, and in the end what she got was a ton of shelving for things she didn’t use anymore and a tiny space with a sofa, coffee table, and a small workout machine in it.  She limited herself and all the things she could have gotten by her inability to let go of the things she thought she had to keep.

Now I know this was a show literally about material things, but it made me wonder how many times in my life I had limited myself by what I could have had because I had to hold onto to what I knew and what I thought I had to have or wanted. Life is meant to be enjoyed, and most of our struggles come from our inability to accept what is and step out of the way of what could be.

I remember the first time I was dragged to my knees by life and how I fought with it to give me what I wanted, what I thought should be based on what I knew and understood.  It was a long and brutal battle that took many many years to give up.  When I finally gave it up and accepted what was, life came in and gave me something entirely different than I had been wanting and it was so good that I cried many times, not because I had it, but because I hadn’t gotten it sooner so I could have lived with it longer.  My holding on to what I understood, to what I thought I wanted, prevented what could have been from coming a lot sooner.

I know some people who are masters at letting go and accepting what is.  They move through life with ease as they place no restrictions and no resistance to what is trying to come next.  These people are not people with easy lives free of difficulties and pain.  They are people who do not push against the flow of life.  Change is our one constant.  It is going to happen. Our ability to adapt to, accept, do what we can and allow a Higher Power to handle the big picture allows our lives to be richer, fuller, and free of a lot of pain. We can gain a lot more enjoyment out of our lives if we can believe and allow the powers that be to support us, comfort us and provide us with options beyond our limited sight.

Copyright 2017 Melody White. All Rights Reserved.

 

 

 

 

Love Continues

The holidays are fast approaching and many of us will face them without the ones we love, be it spouses, parents, siblings, our children, our grandchildren, or our best friends.  I remember the first time I lost someone very close to me, and the very difficult challenge of living daily without them.  I felt and still feel with some of the losses, that I relive the pain of their leaving everyday.

There are so many who have faced greater loss than I have, and it almost makes me feel guilty to share mine, but to not share is to turn away from my heart, and I have never been one to be able to do that.  I am a believer of a heart directed life, knowing that it is truly the center of all things.

Love is the most powerful force on earth and is a living thing born of our hearts and has no end.  Love is a continuum and never ever dies, not real love, not true love, it just keeps going and going and going.  Anything less would not be authentic.  How we meet it, how we care for it, matters greatly.

I have loved big and much in my life, and I have lived through losing the object of my love many times, and not once has the love ceased to continue, and I think therein lies the struggle.  Where do we put all the love we have when what we love is gone from our lives? 

I know for me shutting it down does not work, as I would have to close off pieces of my heart for that to happen, and my current stance on life and our ability to not just survive it, but to thrive in it, is to live with our hearts wide open.

Love is associated with the element air, and when we love, and when we are in love, we feel like we are walking on air, it is a state of nirvana, pure bliss.  Nothing on earth feels as good as love does.  When we lose the object of our love, we struggle with where to put all the love.  Sometimes we try to drink it away, eat it away, smoke it away, run it away, work it away, but the results are poor.

For those who have lost their loved ones to death, it feels so final, so helpless.  Those who lose their loved ones to another or to other circumstances have a different battle. They live with the inability to share their love with that person knowing that that person is still here, and they are held in a different kind of struggle.

I have watched people and myself try to place that love into projects, to keep that love alive in some way.   And I think it helps place our energy in a better place, but the void remains, a big gaping hole in our heart where they use to exist.

I understand that love never dies, and I don’t have an answer to my question, but I do have a strong belief in the existence of a higher power who is the great and grand orchestrator of life.  I also know that my acceptance of what is, is crucial to living more fully and peacefully, regardless of my sometimes failing attempts.

I send prayers of light and love to all who are facing life without their loved ones. May we reach out to one another with all the accumulated love that we have been holding onto and try to heal the wounds that be.

Copyright 2017 Melody White. All Rights Reserved.

 

 

Forgiveness

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“There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love.” ~ Bryant H. McGill

If we truly seek to live with our hearts wide open then we must learn to forgive. Truly forgive. Forgive until not even a smidgen is left in the makeup of your cellular body.  Forgive so that you need not face the same experience again and again to erase any tiny held fragments.

In this life count on being wounded, and know that it is merely the sword upon which you will sharpen your soul.  Many will inflict pain upon your heart, and when they do you will have a choice.  Forgive or place blame.  If you choose forgiveness your journey out and away from the pain will be much less than if you choose blame.

Blame will lead you down the dark path of anger and hate and all the negativity that dwells there.

Forgiveness is really our only option if we hope to hold love in our hearts.  Offer forgiveness, do it for your offender, and do it for you.  For a heart that holds a grudge will carry a festering wound and that wound will have to be nursed for as long as you allow it to exist.  And it will require more than just daily attending, it will need walls erected to protect it, and maintaining that fortress will exhaust your energy until one day it becomes all consuming and your focus is solely on protecting your wound and the force that caused it, until the very thing you hoped to never happen again is all you can see, and your world becomes a defensive one, and all things you experience are colored and marked by the pain you are holding on to and you will be fortifying the pain.

Sometimes the pain you will suffer will cloud all the blessings in front of you, creating for yourself a skewed perspective on the world in front of you, and making your journey away from the experience that started it all a much harder trek.  You will have to climb hard and long to free yourself of the hold pain can bring, but when you climb long enough you will begin to see that the suffering you are enduring is actually self-inflicted.

Someone once said, pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.

The first thing we humans do when encountering pain is look to who we think caused it, and then we begin to place blame, and then comes judgement, followed by shaming, leading to the horrific forces of hate and anger.

When you find yourself wallowing in all this negativity you will not have to look far to see where it is coming from. Your struggle with pain eventually becomes your own doing, and in time, your undoing.  You supposed perpetrator has moved on long ago.

We can trace all suffering back to our inability to let something go, our inability to accept what is and hold fast to our high and mighty stance of what we think is justice.  But this kind of thinking will only breed more suffering and bury you in a world of negativity, until your climb out is much farther than it was before.

Lighten your load and forgive, free both yourself and the inflicting party of the past to realize what your future can hold.

Seek not to justify your pain and/or your revenge.  I understand greatly now the passage, “let vengeance be mine.”  It is a means to freedom and living with your heart wide open, allowing it to be full of understanding and compassion.

Choose forgiveness without having to be dragged to your knees, for it surely will.  Harboring blame or ill will towards any who hurt you will direct the point of the arrow back to you again and again.

If you want to stop the pain, let go of the past and free yourself of the very wound where it exists.

There have been times in my life when I felt death would be a much easier option than living, because of the pain I held in my heart.

I knew not nor understood how to relieve myself of this pain until I sat with it so long that it nearly broke me.

I have wallowed in it, taken it to bed, woken up with it, and even tried wearing it as a shield, yet still the pain stayed and invited with it its friends anger, hate, jealousy, blame, shame, and eventually guilt.

It was only with much deep reflection that I realized I held the salve all along.  It took years for me to understand that I, and only I, held the one thing that would stop the pain and heal the wound, and that one thing is forgiveness.

In order to take the dagger out of my own heart, I had to first take the dagger out of the one I held it in, the one I believed had wronged me.

Forgiveness is such a simple thing to do, but far from easy.  Mahatma Gandhi so brilliantly and compassionately shared with us, “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”

We will be tried a thousand times over in this lifetime before we master forgiveness.

We will meet experience after experience until we can offer up forgiveness with no resistance.  And when that time comes our walk here on this earth will be much easier and we will change our future terrain.

Copyright 2017 Melody White. All Rights Reserved.

Forgiveness

“There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love.” ~ Bryant H. McGill

If we truly seek to live with our hearts wide open then we must learn to forgive. Truly forgive. Forgive until not even a smidgen is left in the makeup of your cellular body.  Forgive so that you need not face the same experience again and again to erase any tiny held fragments.

In this life count on being wounded, and know that it is merely the sword upon which you will sharpen your soul.  Many will inflict pain upon your heart, and when they do you will have a choice.  Forgive or place blame.  If you choose forgiveness your journey out and away from the pain will be much less than if you choose blame.

Blame will lead you down the dark path of anger and hate and all the negativity that dwells there.

Forgiveness is really our only option if we hope to hold love in our hearts.  Offer forgiveness, do it for your offender, and do it for you.  For a heart that holds a grudge will carry a festering wound and that wound will have to be nursed for as long as you allow it to exist.  And it will require more than just daily attending, it will need walls erected to protect it, and maintaining that fortress will exhaust your energy until one day it becomes all-consuming and your focus is solely on protecting your wound and the force that caused it, until the very thing you hoped to never happen again is all you can see, and your world becomes a defensive one, and all things you experience are colored and marked by the pain you are holding onto and you will be fortifying the pain.

Sometimes the pain you will suffer will cloud all the blessings in front of you, creating for yourself a skewed perspective on the world in front of you, and making your journey away from the experience that started it all a much harder trek.  You will have to climb hard and long to free yourself of the hold pain can bring, but when you climb long enough you will begin to see that the suffering you are enduring is actually self-inflicted.

Someone once said, “pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.”

The first thing we humans do when encountering pain is look to who we think caused it, and then we begin to place blame, and then comes judgement, followed by shaming, leading to the horrific forces of hate and anger.

When you find yourself wallowing in all this negativity you will not have to look far to see where it is coming from. Your struggle with pain eventually becomes you own doing, and in time, your undoing.  You supposed perpetrator has moved on long ago.

We can trace all suffering back to our inability to let something go, our inability to accept what is and hold fast to our high and mighty stance of what we think is justice.  But this kind of thinking will only breed more suffering and bury you in a world of negativity, until your climb out is much farther than it was before.

Lighten your load and forgive, free both yourself and the inflicting party of the past to realize what your future can hold.

Seek not to justify your pain and/or your revenge.  I understand greatly now the passage, “let vengeance be mine.”  It is a means to freedom and living with your heart wide open, allowing it to be full of understanding and compassion.

Choose forgiveness without having to be dragged to your knees, for it surely will.  Harboring blame or ill will towards any who hurt you will direct the point of the arrow back to you again and again.

If you want to stop the pain, let go of the past and free yourself of the very wound where it exists.

There have been times in my life when I felt death would be a much easier option than living, because of the pain I held in my heart.

I knew not nor understood how to relieve myself of this pain until I sat with it so long that it nearly broke me.

I have wallowed in it, taken it to bed, woken up with it, and even tried wearing it as a shield, yet still the pain stayed and invited with it its friends anger, hate, jealousy, blame, shame, and eventually guilt.

It was only with much deep reflection that I realized I held the salve all along.  It took years for me to understand that I, and only I, held the one thing that would stop the pain and heal the wound, and that one thing is forgiveness.

In order to take the dagger out of my own heart, I had to first take the dagger out of the one I held it in, the one I believed had wronged me.

Forgiveness is such a simple thing to do, but far from easy.  Mahatma Ghandhi so brilliantly and compassionately shared with us, “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”

We will be tried a thousand times over in this lifetime before we master forgiveness.

We will meet experience after experience until we can offer up forgiveness with no resistance.  And when that time comes our walk here on this earth will be much easier and we will change our future terrain.

Copyright 2017 Melody White. All Rights Reserved.

Knocking Down the Fort

The Heart is the most resilient of all things on earth.  It can be broken a million times over and repair itself a million times over, because it houses the most powerful energy in all the world – love.

When hurt and wounded, the owner of the heart ultimately has only one choice, but may take many lifetimes to surrender to that fact.  More often than not, when wounded the owner of the heart seals off the broken piece and allows the wound to fester and infect the whole being.

This, in turn, switches the chief operating force of love off and switches on the operating force of fear, and there lies the birthplace of the many afflictions of the world – hate, anger, jealousy, and the most callous enemy of all, indifference.

The carrier of such a heart then repeats the same experiences that caused the switch to flip in the first place, seeking to set itself right. It, the heart, will endure all that is necessary to change this and reestablish love as its director.

Pain is a hard thing to sit with, and pain of the heart, the most brutal. We humans will do just about anything to avoid the afflictions, and run hard to outpace the pain.

crumbling stone wall

We work hard building a fortress to protect the heart from what initially gave the first hit, thereby placing in motion the energy field that will continue to bring about experiences that will try and knock the fort down and allow the wound to heal.

For many of us, we are unaware that we have done all this construction, as the very humanness of us causes us to do so.

We build the fort and are on the lookout for any incoming attempt for such a pain to dare come again, never realizing the very act of erecting such a thing literally invites similar experiences back, and hoping that this time, the human will choose differently and allow the heart to remain open to the pain so that it can heal.

To stay open to pain requires a mighty warrior, one who will allow love to stay in place and not close off any pieces in order to protect the heart.

Now that I have come through over a half a century of living, I understand more fully what it means to live with your Heart Wide Open.  I am far from being fully there, but I can at least appreciate and be grateful for the awareness to try and do so.

Copyright 2017 Melody White. All Rights Reserved.